Saturday, August 8, 2015

AGORAPHOBIA OR GLASSES?

Agoraphobia or glasses, which one do you want. This should be an easy decision but it's not! Why? I can't answer that question, if you can answer it will you leave a comment?
The longer you are in the grip of agoraphobia the harder it will be to relearn the normal way of life. I really don't know what else I can say that I haven't already said. Please read my blog and my book if you have agoraphobia and are wondering why you have it and how you can get rid of it.

I wish you the best. Yolanda

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

AGORAPHOBIA AND EMPATHY

Are you an empathetic agoraphobic? The word empathy means the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
Agoraphobics are always screaming how nobody understands them and can't know what they are going through on a daily basis. We bemoan the fact that we live in a world where no one can relate to our problems, not our husbands or wife and certainly not our doctors. Now I agree that all of this is true but have you ever turned the tables and said I don't understand or have empathy with how they see me or are hurt by my behavior towards them or situations.
They can't understand what we are going through and rightly so. Agoraphobia is so debilitating that we can't even understand it. But does that make this ok? I don't think so!
Agoraphobics need a big dose of their own criticism. We want to be understood by other people but we sure don't want to do the understanding. Shame on us. It's time to change. It's time to look at those non- agoraphobics and cut them some slack. Try and look at yourself the way they look at you. They don't understand you they want to be your friend. They want to hang out with you, is there something wrong with that?  Be it husband, relative, friend, lover or child. We need to turn the tables on ourselves and ask how can I can show love to people instead of expecting them to show love and understand to me not knowing my condition like I know it.
The answer is within you. Look for it. Start with the one closest to you. Tell them how much you care about them and want them to be happy. Tell them you are sorry you can't do the things they want you to do and wish with all your heart you could be different. Maybe you could strike a compromise. Showing unconditional love to someone can only be a good thing and make your life a little better. Try looking out side of yourself for a change instead of looking in and seeing only miserable me and no body cares. Sometimes it's not all about you.

Better yet click on  the test on the right and get rid of 85 to 95% of your symptoms with a pair of prism glasses.

Love you all, Yolanda

Saturday, July 11, 2015

Agoraphobia What?: CRABBY OLD WOMAN

Agoraphobia What?: CRABBY OLD WOMAN: When an old woman died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in Moosomin, Saskatchewan, it was believed that sh...

CRABBY OLD WOMAN

When an old woman died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in Moosomin, Saskatchewan, it was believed that she had nothing left of any value.  Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem.
 
Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Alberta.
 
The old woman's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health.  A slide presentation has also been made based on this simple, but eloquent, poem. 
This little old woman, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this  'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.
 
Crabby Old Lady
 
What do you see nurses?  . .. . What do you see?
What are you thinking ..  .. .. when you're looking at me?
A crabby old lady .. ..  .. not very wise,
Uncertain of habit .. ..  .. with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her food  ..     .. .. and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud  voice .. .. .. 'I do wish you'd try!'
Who seems not to notice  .. .. .. the things that you do.
And forever is losing ..  .. .. A sock or
shoe?
Who, resisting or not  ..     .. .. lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding  .. .. .. a long day to fill?
Is that what you're  thinking? .. .. .. Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes,  nurse .. . .. you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am  .. .. .. As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding,  .. .. .. as I eat at your will.
I'm a small girl of Ten  . .. . with  a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters ..  .. .. who love one another.
A young girl of Sixteen  .. .. .. with wings on her feet.
Dreaming that soon now  .. .. .. a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at Twenty  .. .. .. my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows ..  .. .. that I promised to keep.
At Twenty-Five, now ..  .. .. I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide ..  .. ..  a secure happy home.
A woman of Thirty . ..  .. My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other ..  .. .. With ties that should last.
At Forty, my young sons  .. .. .. have grown and are gone,
But my man is beside me  . .. . to see I don't mourn.
At Fifty, once more, ..  .. .. babies play 'round my knee,
Again, we know children  .. .. .. My husband and me.
Dark days are upon me ..  .. .. my husband's now dead.
I look at the future ..  .. .. and shudder with dread.
For my young are all  rearing .. .. .. young of their own.
And I think of the years  .. .. . and  the love that I've known.
I'm now an old woman ..  . .. and nature is cruel.
'Tis jest to make old  age .. .. .. look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles ..  .. .. grace and vigor depart.
There is now a stone ..  . .. where I once had a heart.
But inside this  old  carcass .. .. .. a young girl still dwells,
And now and again .. ..  .. my battered heart swells.
I remember the joys ..  .. .. I remember the pain.
And I'm loving and  living .. .. .. life over again.
I  think of the  years, all too few .. .. .. gone too fast.
And accept the stark  fact .. .. . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes,  people .. .. .. open and see.
Not a crabby old woman  .. .. .. look  closer .. .. .. see ME!!
 
Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without  looking at the young soul within.  We will all, one day, be there, too!
 
PLEASE SHARE THIS  POEM !
 
The best and most  beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched.
They must be felt by the heart. ​
 
 
 I thought you might like this so I am sharing. Love you all Yolanda
 
 
 


 

Saturday, June 27, 2015

AGORAPHOBIA AND YOUR AGE!

Agoraphobia has no respect as to age. It can happen to a baby or to a forty old person. Yes I said happen, because you never know when it is going to strike. In a way it's like cancer or any other medical disability that overtakes people, like MS. Also like MS it runs in families. It is not a mental disorder even though mental disorders can occur because of it. This disorder seems to hit women more than men and it seems to hit in the middle to late twenties. Unlike Cancer Agoraphobia won't kill you but it will wreck your life anyway.
I bet each and every one of you who have this can remember when it first started. I certainly remember when mine started. I remember the time the place and the date. The thing with me is I like to solve mysteries and Agoraphobia was certainly a mystery but if you persist and look at things logically you will find the answer. Most Agoraphobics look at their plight as something that is happening to them and there is nothing they can do so they just give up. Others accept it and try and either self medicate with drugs and alcohol and pills and accept a ok kind of life and just try and hang on and get through. I encourage you to become a mystery detective and find your answer. I promise you it is out there. In fact it is in this blog that you are reading. The only thing you have to do is study the posts here and back it all up with a google search. You would think you could just do that for your own peace and happiness wouldn't you? I have faith in you do it! If you need any help hollar I will be happy to help.
Love you all, Yolanda  

Friday, June 12, 2015

AGORAPHOBICS IN ILLINOIS AND PHOTO ID

Hi, are you an agoraphobic and living in Illinois? There is no way for agoraphobics in Illinois to get a photo ID other than going to a driving facility and sitting for one. As we know most agoraphobics are homebound and cannot do this. This leaves them with the dilemma of not being able to vote and a host of other problems that are associated with having a photo ID, homebound or not.

There is a class action suit in the making to try and bring light to this situation. If you would like to be part of this class action suit leave a comment and I will email you back.

Or just leave a comment on your feelings on this problem.

All the best to you all, Yolanda

Saturday, May 30, 2015

ADD, AGORAPHOBIA, AND HYPERPHORIA

For years as a child and into adulthood, Elli Altman suffered from a medical condition she and nobody else seemed to understand - misaligned eyes.
Her teachers and mentors told her she was smart, but because she had problems with school studies and playing sports, they told her she was either lazy or unmotivated and would never succeed.
“I wanted to learn - learn everything under the sun - but it seemed mysteriously out of reach for me,” said Altman of West Bloomfield.  “I could read individual words (was great at spelling them) but my eyes could not make their way across the printed page.”
“I tried every sport, even though I could not catch or hit a ball or determine exactly where the hurdle was so that I could clear it,” she said, recalling many bumps and bruises accumulated from trying athletics. “I knew I didn’t have great vision, but was always told that I did not need glasses.”
Early last year, when Altman was turning 60 and her vision getting worse – “I just could not control the use of my left eye. It felt like it was bobbling at the end of a slinky” – she found Bloomfield Hills-based Vision Specialists of Michigan.
Optometrist Debby Feinberg performed a simple test her father began to develop years ago and corrected Altman’s vision by fitting her with custom-made eyeglasses with a prismatic corrective lense.
“It turns out that my eyes are misaligned - both horizontally and vertically,” said Altman.
“There was a moment during the initial evaluation when, with goggle-like trial lenses tailored precisely for my eyes, I saw the world for the very first time as people with normal vision see the world,” Altman recalled.
“All I could think of was, ‘Oh. That's it.’ Until that moment, I had no idea what normal vision looked like or felt like,” she said. “But, I can tell you this. It was glorious and I am going to remember that one moment forever.”

Feinberg's road to vision misalignment specialist

Debby Feinberg
Debby Feinberg began practicing optometry in Oakland County in 1983 after graduating from Illinois College of Optometry. She joined her father, Paul, now 89, at his practice, the former Mall Optical Center in Waterford.
Over the years, Feinberg began specializing more in the treatment of neurological conditions, including headache and dizziness, that have a visual cause.
Her pioneering work, which helped Altman, assessing patients and developing specially designed corrective lenses for the condition calledbinocular vision dysfunction, addresses a condition where the eyes are misaligned and can cause severe headaches, dizziness, anxiety and neck pain, said Mark Rosner, M.D.,  Feinberg’s husband and the practice’s business manager.
As her practice grew, Feinberg, 57, moved to Bloomfield Hills and renamed her practice Vision Specialists of Michigan. She now has four optometrists along with 25 employees.
“Before 1995, I had a typical optometrist practice. Now my practice is a little different,” said Feinberg. “I do 90-minute eye exams. I only see eight people per day. “Most of my patients get referred by medical doctors.”
In the mid-1980s, Feinberg noticed her brother-in-law, Arthur Rosner, an ear nose and throat specialist, had vision problems caused by eyestrain. He came in for an eye exam and she found he needed prismatic correction. It was her first patient to receive eyeglasses fitted with a prism lense.
“He was so happy it worked,” Feinberg said. “Years passed and I got a call from him in 1995. He told me he had patients who suffered from nausea and felt unbalanced. I discovered they had misalignment in their eyes. Once I leveled their vision with prisms, they felt better.”
Over the next nine years, Feinberg said she helped 500 patients with various misalignment symptoms. Word of mouth spread and soon she needed to expand her practice.
“I got calls from people who said, “How did you learn my secret,” and “When can I come in for an appointment,” Feinberg said. “The proper lenses can help these people."
Randall Benson, M.D., a neurologist who specializes in traumatic brain injury, has referred dozens of patients, including former NFL players, to Vision Specialists over the years.
“I use Debby and Vision Specialists extensively because about 50 percent of the time my patients have binocular vision dysfunction caused by brain injury,” said Benson, who heads up Novi-based Center for Integrated Neurology and runs the non-profit Center for Neurological Studies.
“Many of them have gone years without any satisfactory diagnosis or treatment,” he said. “I have patients come from all over the country and Vision Specialists really are the leaders in our region and nationally, too.”
Benson, who said he is collaborating with Vision Specialists on clinical research on vision issues, said the combination of Vision Specialists experience in assessing and diagnosing the vision problem, and fitting the right prismatic corrective lense makes the practice his go-to referral.
Over the past 21 years, Feinberg has seen more than 7,000 patients. She gets more than 15 emails a day from people all over. She has co-written a book, “If Walls in My Exam Room Could Talk” with her husband Mark and Sherry Brantley and posts educational videos on her website.
Feinberg also has started a training program for other optometrists to teach them how to evaluate patients and manufacture the special prism lenses. And she has created a simple 25-question test to help practitioners determine if a patient’s eyes are misaligned.
“We have a lab to cut the lenses. The prism element is so critical. It bends the light both on the vertical and horizontal plane,” she said. “My goal is to move this service out of my office and into other states.”

Focus on child vision misalignment

Altman, who last July left her job of 20 years as admissions counselor at the Roeper School to accept a job as education liaison for the fast-growing optometry practice, said once Feinberg helped to cure her, she knew her next calling.
“As soon as I experienced my new vision with the new glasses, I declared that no child with misaligned eyes should ever go without these glasses,” said Altman. “I knew then that I wanted to work to promote this mission.  I wore my glasses for about two months and then approached Dr. Debby about working for her to find the children with misaligned eyes. “
Feinberg said she has helped dozens of children with misalignment problems and hopes Altman can help spread the word to schools through her contacts.
Experts estimate 10 percent of the population has some form of misaligned eyes. Some children identified as having ADD/ADHD, or another learning disability, have problems with misaligned eyes.
Feinberg said it is very common for children to have misdiagnosis of ADD when they really have misaligned eyes.
“Even a small misalignment can become an enormous part of the problem,” she said. “A prismatic correction sometimes can help children.”
Feinberg said if two eyes are not coordinated, reading can be difficult and confusing.
“Words move around on the page, bump into each other. Kids can be distracted because of it,” said Feinberg, adding that one of her goals is to evaluate more children for these problems.
Altman said typical school eye exams sometimes miss how the eyes work together.
“A child may have 20/20 eyesight, yet have binocular vision dysfunction because the vision test looks at the acuity of each eye, not how they work together,” Altman said.